A very wise pastor once compared marriage to riding a bus. He told me that sometimes you are riding along with your partner, content and enjoying the scenery. Then, one day you may find yourself longing to be riding with the person a few seats in front of you. Sometimes you want to get off the bus altogether.
In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus sternly reminds us in Matthew 5:28, “But I say to you that everyone who so much as looks at a woman with evil desire for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Amplified Bible) Stern, but can this statement be denied?
Perhaps it is not so much the actual act of adultery, or lust. Perhaps God’s chief problem is with the aftermath . . . distrust, ruined relationships, divorce, sexual abuse, abortion, sexually transmitted diseases?
In talking with my friends over a long period of time, I learn of their insecurity and their lack of satisfaction that their emotional needs are being met by their partners. Sometimes a marriage fails to live up to ones expectations.
Add to this the fuel of our times . . . movies with graphic sexual content, songs on the radio that extol copulation or at the very least a couple “talking dirty” to each other, popular novels that are nothing more than pornography in fifty different shades.
Of course, God created people with emotions and libido, which cannot be denied. However, searching our hearts for that control to navigate through a cesspool and quagmire of society, and keeping our eyes toward God, is our salvation.
In the present-day American culture it is next to impossible to avoid media which will tempt us. It is up to each individual to avoid the temptation of suffering the aftermath of adulterous thoughts and actions. Often it our perspective that saves us from adultery. Have faith.